Wednesday, March 31, 2010

Getting in the Mood For Erotic Romance

Let's face it, sometimes I'm just not in the mood to write--or even talk, about sex. However, my job doesn't stop turning just because I'm not in the mood anymore. I still have to pull out all the knee shaking, lip quivering, delicious goodness. What's a girl to do? First things first: make a list of sexy goodness!
  1. I light chocolate peppermint scented candles, or some other sexy scent of the moment

      2. I whip out some of my favorite short story treats for "research"

     3. I put on a little plaid skirt and garters.

                        4. I look at sexy men ( Not the best pic but have you seen the man in a tight t-shirt dancing? Because that's where it is at! P.S, I tried to find this video on Youtube for you people and I couldn't find it after two hours and gave up.)

     So those are my go-to solutions for writer's block. What do you do when your just not feeling your day?

Tuesday, March 30, 2010

A Day in the Life of THIS Writer

Ha ha ha. Ok, that’s me laughing. A day in the life of a writer… If it was only that simple. Or for me, typical. I guess for some writers and authors it is. For example, she gets up at 5 AM, writes for a couple hours, makes breakfast, sends the kids off to school then goes back to writing. The kids come home, she helps them with their homework, makes dinner, then after they go to bed she writes a couple more hours. Wash. Rinse. Repeat.

Yeah, right. Well, I work full-time (as do most writers). And I work second shift as an emergency dispatcher. I only get one weekend off a month and I work almost all holidays. (I know, it sucks, doesn’t it? Ok, everyone boo at once. Thanks, I feel better!)

So, I work in the evenings and when am I most creative? In the evenings. I know, I know, I am trying to get another job (or convince my fiancé to let me stay home and write full-time – ha!).

My point is that there is no typical day in the life of this writer. Some days I write, some days I don’t. If I’m off, I can sit and write for hours and on other days I can screw around on the Internet doing promotion and networking (psssst… that’s a form of “socializing”).

I sometimes come home from work around 11:30 PM and can be up to 1 AM writing. Some days I’m too tired. Some days I don’t have a creative thought in my brain.

The one up side to my job is that when I have “down” time later in the evening, I can work on things like this blog post (shhhhh!) or do edits on my latest work-in-progress or do revisions for my editor. Or even do online socializing (I mean networking!) at my online-based RWA chapters, the Yahoo groups I belong to, or the writing forums I belong to (here’s a shout-out to my fellow Romance Divas).

And then there is always life, which seems to get in the way of writing. Too tired, too busy, too cranky, too (fill in the blank). You get the picture.

But even so, even with my whacked out work schedule and my non-existent writing schedule, I do get things done. I have to be flexible and I think that is the key. I can’t beat myself up when there is a day, or a week, or even a month where I haven’t written anything new.

Here’s the proof that you can get things done when you life is atypical: last September, my first novel, Banged Up, was released with Liquid Silver Books. And my second, my bestseller m/m novella, Rip Cord, came out in November with Phaze Books. My third, Double Dare, an interracial m/m/f ménage a trios, was released in January at Loose Id.
A day in the life of THIS writer is far from typical.

You can find out more about me and my books on my website and my blog.

Sunday, March 28, 2010

New Release Today : Repossession by Elise Hepner

Today my new Excessica erotica release Repossession hits online shelves! Just like some of my other favorites this one is filled with naughty BDSM but with a sexually experimental twist. I'll be giving away one copy to a reader who comments today. Repossession is available in all e-book formats including Kindle.

Mina knows that after several years with her vanilla husband she's never going to get the hot and heady sexual experiences she craves unless she looks elsewhere. During their divorce Mina is willing to risk everything for a heart pounding, head exploding orgasm. She embarks on a sexual journey of self fulfillment and submission that could only play out in her wildest fantasies. There is no turning back.

Warnings: This title contains strong language, kidnap scenario, BDSM and mindgames.

Casually, I brought up the email and re-read it. It made my fingertips tingle. I dialed up the scent on my vanilla plug-in, worried Marla in the other booth could smell the excitement seeping through my orange cotton underwear. Without thinking my fingertips strayed along the edges of my thigh, under my skirt, and inside my underwear at my pulsating pussy, swiping up the scent with a small dip into the fabric and then up to my nose. Before I could hesitate an email box was in my display and my pussy stained fingers were flying over the keys as if possessed.

To: Harrison22
From: FetishFreak88

 First off, thank you so much for the compliments! It was nice to log-in to such gentlemanly behavior. As for my pictures, yes they were professionally done in one of my favorite dungeons in NYC, Pandora’s Box. As a lifer within the BDSM lifestyle community I’m a regular there. Some would even say they know me by name,  if that name happens to be “bitch”, “slut”, or “cunt”. Colorful language is such a turn-on. Anyway, I would love to meet you for a cup of coffee sometime to discuss our opinions on the culture. I also just broke out of a serious relationship and I’m looking for a permanent Master liaison for long-term. Let me know if you want to audition


Within seconds I was staring at a glowing wall of “SENT” displayed on my monitor. In terror and with a whole new level of adrenaline I realized I had just sent a naughty email at my workplace. After sniffing vaginal juices on my fingertips. Touching myself at work. The overwhelming need to masturbate and dip further into this illicit streak hit me like an on-coming train. Rather than getting off in the public stalls that smelled like Maybelline products and hairspray I walked to my boss’s desk and called out sick. For the whole fucking week. I needed a little alone time after my sexual office breakdown.

Sultry Sunday moments of passion

Sundays spent at home are a special day...the possibilities are endless. Love in the morning, love in the afternoon and a passionate evening.

Here are some of my favorite Sunday past times that can steam you and your partner up all day long...

Snuggling in bed on cool, crisp morning...

A bubble bath with the one you love...

A night of passion you'll remember forever...

A back massage, rubbing all the right places...

Saturday, March 27, 2010

Sinful Saturday ~ Mae West, Sexual Rebel

When caught between two evils, I generally pick the one I've never tried before.

~ Mae West

One of my favorite all-time sinners is the actress, author and so much more, Mae West. Long, long ago I read Mae West’s autobiography. For her times, she was one brassy, *do things her own passionate way* lady. Yes, she was a sexual rebel. She went against all the conventions, and paid dearly for it many times. She also earned my undying admiration because she was one brainy broad and a true rebel in so many ways, other than her well-known and well-advertised lustful appetite.

I think we women owe her a debt of gratitude. I doubt the current erotic romance and erotica genres would be as vigorously accepted without her influence, and without her personal courage. I doubt we would have as much personal freedom as we do now, to express our individual sexual natures.

I say individual because we are all different. We have the right to be shy and retiring and say no to ‘sex’. Just as we have the right to be outrageously *out there* erotic. We have the right to be who we are, to live our true sexual natures as women.

Mae West was notoriously known for having her brand of fun, her kind of good time. Here’s an unedited snippet of Stacy and Zyrru, my heroine and hero, having their kind of *getting to know each other* good time. They star in a short tiger shapeshifter story I’ve written recently.

And, yes, Zyrru is doing some ‘sinning’ since he’s supposed to remain in human form while vacationing on Earth. However, he and his shifter brethren are letting their real tiger ears and stripes show, as if they’re in costume, for the Masquerade Call of the Wild Ball. What bad tigers they are, too! Chasing after all that sumptuous human woman tail.

Unedited snippet from my WIP ~ The Tiger’s Masquerade

Stacy jumped at his light nip on her neck, totally unprepared for what he’d done--actually how he’d done it. Her eyes flew open.

She felt him steady her by gripping her upper arms firmly. Already, his tongue laved her stinging flesh, the strokes so incredibly passionate she moaned, and let her head loll back.

The sexy strong licking of his tongue tripped her clit into a spasm. Stacy whimpered with pleasure, with her need for more, the sound a blissful rush up her throat.

Stacy wasn’t certain why she trusted him, given her rotten sexual experiences with most men. Maybe it wasn’t a matter of trust, but of wanton desire. Maybe, it was her fantasy of him.

He turned her around slowly, pressing her against the wall. The deceptive strength of his body overwhelmed her senses, and made her an easy capture for him.

He turned her around slowly, pressing her against the wall. The deceptive strength of his body overwhelmed her senses, and made her an easy capture for him.

Like the rake she accused him of being, he gripped her gown skirts and lifted them above her waist, exposing her naked throbbing pussy. Stacy had worn no underwear of any kind, preferring the satin-sensual feel of the gown.

He thrust without compromise, cradling his hard cock against her feminine apex. Still covered by his trousers, his beastly shaft seared a brand on her swollen mound. Stacy gasped for breath, and struggled for a hold on her sanity.

“Ripe for my taking.”

Dangerous, soft, his growled words thrilled through her.

“Zyrru,” she managed between pants.

Her head spun while her body begged like a tramp for his ‘taking’. Stacy slumped against the wall and became conscious she gripped his forearms. Her nails dug into the ultra smooth fabric of his jacket.

Attempting to blink her way back to some sort of rational thought, she glimpsed the descent of his lips. Lost inside the wildfires of passion, she met the trapping slant of his mouth.

Her mouth yielded and he took the kiss he wanted. It was the kiss she wanted to give him, sultry and wicked. And unending, so it felt, until their lips parted with a gentleness that surprised her. Their mingled breaths whispered a promise to each other.




Savanna Kougar

~ Run on the Wild Side of Romance ~

Author of ~

All Shades of Blue Paradise
Red Lioness Tamed
When a Good Angel Falls ~ In Print
Tangerine Carnal Dreams
Murder by Hair Spray in Gardenia, New Atlantis ~ In Print
Black Cat Beauty
Her Insatiable Dark Heroes ~ In Print
Stallion of Ash and Flame ~ In Print
Branded by the Texans ~ Coming in August 2010 from Siren-BookStrand

Friday, March 26, 2010

Flirty Friday -The Magic of First Dates

First dates are so exciting!

When you have the nervous flutter in the pit of your stomach, your hands are a bit moist and tingling with anticipation. The chemistry is probably already there, or just building. That little spark of interest.

Is he Mr Right?

Mr Right Now?

Getting ready usually involves a lot of thought and wardrobe changes.

Speaking of first dates, remember that scene from Bridget Jones Diary? She is getting ready to see Daniel Cleaver, her boss, at a book reception, and decides to wear 'granny panties' to suck her tummy in? She thinks it will also keep her "good" so that she doesn't sleep with him. Kind of like not shaving your legs before a date?

That was a hilarious scene when she forgets and he finds them!

Sometimes we don't have anymore first dates, because we're married or have a partner. But don't fear. We can still have a first date. My solution? Role play!

Get that nervous excitement back by arranging a date with your honey. Preferably the same place you met on your first date. Take a very relaxing bath and lots of time getting ready. Feel that excitement build.

You could wear the same clothes if you have them. Shave your legs and wear those sexy panties!

Flirt with your partner when you meet, just like a real first date. Gaze at each other. Feed each other bites of your meal. Compliment each other.

The best thing is, it will end up with more than a good night kiss~

Happy Flirty Friday!

Thursday, March 25, 2010

Thursday 13- Love songs to move you

With wedding season upon us, I thought I'd venture into the territory of the 13 greatest slow dance and ballads of all time- at least in my mind. Slow dancing with the one you love can stir a passion you wouldn't normally feel. The erotic motion of two bodies swaying, the melodic words of the song and the rhythm of the euphony can take a quiet moment and stimulate sexual senses and heighten the desire the couple shares.

Below is a list of songs that move me- they make me want to rub and grind my partner and continue the moves into the bedroom.

Unchained Melody by The Righteous Brothers

Wonderful Tonight by Eric Clapton

Endless Love by Diana Ross and Lionel Richie

I Will Always Love by Whitney Houston

Far Away by Nickelback

Stand By Me by Ben E. King

From This Moment by Shania Twain

Everything I Do ( I do it for you) by Bryan Adams

Crazy For You by Madonna

I Swear by John Michael Montgomery or All 4 One

Amazed by Lonestar

When You Say Nothing At All by Allison Krauss

It's Your love by Tim McGraw & Faith Hill

The next time you have an evening home alone- whip out a CD filled with these songs and I can guarantee you won't make it through the entire music montage before you two move the dancing between the sheets.

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Heightening the Senses

Well it's Wicked Wednesday, and here are some ideas to get you over the um, hump!

My post today is about heightening the senses.

I got this idea thinking of something today. Not too far from my house, there is a healing arts centre that features a sensory deprivation tank. You get into a tank of water, that envelopes you with darkness, and lie down on a few inches of highly salinated water. It is sometimes called a float.  They market it for meditation.

I have always thought this would be a great place to make love. Isolated from the world, two people in a sensory cocoon could focus just on eachother and each sensation. By isolating the senses, you could heighten others. They have restaurants  too where diners dine in the dark. It is a sensory adventure!

                               Think of the sensory adventures you could have! in your own home!

What about agreeing to having a silent encounter together? Rely on your eyes to read your lover's mood, with no vocal encouragement or feedback? Rely on their movements to tell you what you need to know. Learn to better read their responses through movement, or sound, or visual cues. Whatever you are left to rely on. You can become better acquainted and tuned in with your partner, and even your own responses.

I have heard that we all have one dominant sense. What is yours? What is his? I read a great book, wish I could remember the name, that suggested using the 'language' your partner sees the world in. So discover what they talk about to figure out their dominant sense, and describe things in the same sense to them.
Eg: Do they describe what they saw today? talk about music? are a musician? painter? You can determine whether they are visual or auditory dominant if you pay close attention to certain details. There are also feeling dominant men, that are less common, that are stimulated more by feelings. They wear their heart on their sleeve!

So ladies here is your assignment! Find out what dominant sense your partner sees the world with, and also, explore and isolate other senses for both of you!

Here's to SENSE-ual awakening! Happy Wicked Wednesday!

Tuesday, March 23, 2010

Tempting Tuesday - The Ultimate Temptress

Why become the ultimate temptress? Deliciously long temptations create unforgettable sexual acts of passion. Making the effort to keeping him aroused all day definitely pays off, as you'll discover when you reap the rewards later. The benefits aren't just sexual, either. Letting your man know you desire him is a huge confidence and relationship booster. It helps keep you both connected intimately on a day-to-day basis and lets him know he truly is your number one. Let's just say if he's happy, you're going to be happy too.

There's no denying that men are visual creatures. Make the most of this knowledge by taking advantage of it throughout the day. If you live together, the morning is a perfect time to stir his senses. After your shower, walk around in only a robe without the belt. When you're getting dressed, take your time and stay half-way dressed for a while. Even better, wear something sexy underneath your clothes and make sure he sees you in it. The point is to start the day of with a little bit of sexual tension. (Remember, the goal is to draw out the tempting throughout the day, so don't overdo it.)

Your next opportunity for temptation is your morning goodbye. Instead of the usual goodbye peck, linger a little longer and leave him with something to remember. Add a little skimming of our hands over his back or booty for an added oomph. You could even give him a quick shoulder or lower back massage while kissing.

Your chance to let your inner temptress shine is best highlighted while he's away at work. You have an arsenal of options available to you from sexy text messages, naughty voicemail, sexy letters and emails to sexy eCards, naughty pics or web cam peepshows. Keep in consideration what's appropriate for his field of work before deciding what to tempt him with.You may want to do one of these ideas every day for a week, or every few days or so you can randomly surprise him with a little something. Whatever you choose to do, keep it sexy and subtle and don't become predictable about what you have up your sleeve.

For nights when he doesn't race home and devour you on the spot, drag out the temptation a little longer with these tips:

Touch Often
Do not pass any opportunity to touch your partner. When you do let your hands linger a little longer than necessary and slightly graze areas you know are hot spots for him.

Wear Lingerie
You don't need to dress up in a complete outfit for this to work (although he WILL love it). You can keep his visual interest by wearing an extra lacy bra and unbuttoning your shirt a bit. If you're wearing a skirt, bend over and make sure he can see you aren't wearing anything underneath it.

Unexpectedly Talk Dirty
Imagine you're in a bookstore or even grocery shopping. You are both browsing over the selections when you lean over and whisper how much you want him right now. Can you picture his response? What is so great about this tactic is he can't do anything about it until you are in private. All he can do is think about what you said.

Use Sensual Stimuli
Make the most of every moment. Download some short erotic stories to your iPod or MP3 player and play them while driving. Let him "catch" you reading up on the latest sexual techniques. Print out an erotic short story or poem and leave it for him to read somewhere. Go to an erotic art show. When you start thinking of ways to use this tip, more ideas will come and soon you'll be able to turn any situation into a sensually charged one.

Have a very Tempting Tuesday!!!!

Check out more of Mary Quast's sensual writing at her website or on Romantic Interludes

Monday, March 22, 2010

Author Interview with April Morelock

Today I'm interviewing myself - Whooohooo... Currently, I'm a newly signed author with Loose Id and looking forward to my first published story, The Best Little Laundromat in Texas, this summer.

There's so much for me to share with all of you but I'll stick with the interview and act all surprised at my answers :>

Name: April Morelock

Genre: Paranormal and contemporary

We know you’re completely innocent. The worst thing you’ve probably ever done was throw the dog out in the rain but what’s the kinkiest, sexiest thing you’ve ever done?
Now, you know I can’t give away all of my secrets but let’s just say I must plead the fifth. My poor husband would die of embarrassment. Although there was a rope involved. :>

Most of your writing is very plot driven but how bad do you get with your writing, are we talking just suggestion or down right bondage? My writing gets very hot but so far I can’t think of one story that has bondage in it. One—the Assistant’s Secret—alludes to bondage but… oh… yeah, I did write that. ;> Ahem, yes, I believe I’ve officially written a bondage scene. It was hot, he was wearing a dress… don’t ask.

What’s the best thing you’ve ever written—the best line? Of course, all of my lines are great (a bit of sarcasm there, right now I would disagree) but it would be a toss up between “I can’t claim assassin expenses on Santa’s tax return.” To “The ability of some individuals to blow through system security like a howitzer.”

If you could have any movie star take on a role as one of your heroes, who would it be? I love Kevin Costner or David Boreanaz but my all time favorite would be a B-movie martial artists named Ted J. Roberts. He was still a teen in those movies but he’s all grown up now and hmmm… very nice.

Size counts… on average how loooooonnnnnggg do you like your (um, how do we put it delicately) manuscripts to be ;> ( in words silly, not inches) and how steamy? I know where this question was going originally so to answer you --- shorter is better. LOL. I know. I know. Bad answer but really beyond a certain length it’s just wasted on me ( LOL.) As in mss wordlength, I love to read longer but I’m about a 30-50K girl right now.

What are the hardest scenes to write for you? The ones where nothing actionwise is happening. The heart wrenching emotional scenes.

How close in real life have you gotten to one of your fantasies?
Once again I must plead the fifth but I will say my husband is ever interested in helping me with any fantasies I have.

What would you want other writers and your readers to know about you?
I love to write. It’s a big experiment to me to throw two people together and see them fall in love. I hope you see and feel their stories as deeply as I do.

And finally… anything you would like to share with us, an excerpt, a tidbit, or anything else about yourself? I can be a little wild and crazy sometimes… whether I’m writing a story about psychotic elves or a high-tech story or paranormal story about raising the dead, I try to add a bit of humor. I don’t take myself that seriously nor should anyone. I just hope you enjoy the ride through my twisted mind!

Sunday, March 21, 2010

Sultry Sunday- Part II

The continuing Sultry Sunday Shower...**Warning** you may need a towel to dry off when you're done reading.

She leaned her head back onto the tile as her long blonde hair becomes wet and plastered to her breasts. The water overhead pounded on her head, water escaped from her tendrils and began trickling down between her cleavage. Each drop of water streamed down her delicate body making her flesh glisten.

She opened her mouth to speak, to beg for more but she can’t utter a word. She wanted to tell him the pleasure he gave her but all that escaped was a moan of indulgence. She gasped as his finger traced her lips and begins to swirl on her button. His mouth nibbled on her inner thigh as his fingers pursue their yearning.

Her breath quickened when he gently tweaked her button. The sensation quickly brought her near orgasm. She grabbed the back of his head with her hands and pulls his head closer to her spot. Upon contact her hips begin grinding into his face. The marvel of his finger and tongue has her silently pleading for her orgasm to erupt.

He placed his hands on her hips and his fingers began massaging her ass. The manipulation of his strong fingers brings a new awareness to her body.

With each flick of the tongue and stroke of his fingers, she felt herself drifting further into euphoria.

Next excerpt...Sunday March 28.

Saturday, March 20, 2010

Sinful Saturday: Gandhi, Sexually Enlightened or Slut?

 Today's Sinful Saturday is brought to you by JFrater at ListVerse.

"Fact: Gandhi was a dirty old man

At the age of 36, whilst married, Gandhi decided to become celibate in order to achieve a state of enlightenment (through the Hindu religion). As he got older, he became more and more fascinated with sex to the point that, second only to non-violence, it was the subject he most talked about. In order to “perfect” his celibate state, Gandhi would sleep naked with young naked women. One of the women was the 16 year old wife of his grand-nephew Kanu Gandhi. When he wanted to share his bed with his 19 year old grandniece Manu Gandhi, he wrote to her father and told him that they were sharing a bed so that he could “correct her sleeping posture”. When his stenographer R. P. Parasuram found him sleeping naked with Manu, he resigned in disgust."

So, I'm pretty sure if Gandhi read erotica he would be a little less touchy feely. Here are some nice options for the poor man:

Now lets play a game. Why do you think I picked this these books for our revolutionary friend?

Friday, March 19, 2010

Flirty Friday- The Pick UP!

Pick up lines is flirting 101 with the subtlety of a chainsaw!

Let's look for a laugh, at some flirty pick-up lines. From crude to rude to plain cheesy, men have and will try anything, often to limited success.

(Unless you're this man. Then basically you can say whatever you want. Even nothing. Just stand there. Honestly. Lol!)

      Crixus: The toga party's just getting started!
      (photo from Starz entertainment, no copyright infringement intentioned)

Crixus from Spartacus: Blood and Sand as played by Manu Bennett. I had been very remiss not featuring him on SINful Saturday, as it was pointed out to me. Look your fill ladies. Butter him up and spread him on some bread, he's yummy!

So let's have a laugh, and be sure to let me know your best pick up line you've used or had used on you, or wanted to use, for Flirty Friday~

10. “Great legs, what time do they open?”

9. “You must be tired because you’ve been running through my head all night.”

8. “Hey girl, what’s up? Guess what? It’s your lucky day. Out of all the girls here, I picked you to talk to.”

7. “That shirt’s very becoming on you. Of course, if I were on you I’d be coming too.”

6. “Can I buy you a drink or do you just want the money?”

5. "If you were a tree and I was a squirel I would put my nuts in your hole."

4. Looking right at a girl, use one finger to signal her over to you. When she gets to you, say "I made you come using one finger. Imagine what I could do with two".

3. "Do you believe in helping the homeless?" If yes: "Take me home with you."

2. "Hey Baby! I'd like to use your thighs as earmuffs."

1. "Are you free tonight or will it cost me?"


Have a flirty weekend~ !

Thursday, March 18, 2010

Thursday Thirteen by Jacqueline Paige

Thursday 13!!

By Jacqueline Paige

While I was sitting trying to come up with an idea for what I could do for this post, after having scrapped more than a few ideas, the fire trucks went past outside. Who knew a fire truck could be inspiration.

It may be a slightly over used idea, but I can’t help it and hope no one minds.

To put fires out – or possibly start some...

# 1 ... I guess he needed to cool off.

#2 ... he looks a little hot too!

#3 ... he looks ... refreshed, doesn’t he?

#4 ... Who knew resting could be sexy too?

#5, 6 & 7 ... even dirty has some appeal.

Where was I?

Oh! # 8 ... Wet never looked so good.

# 9 ...

# 10 ...

# 11 ... I think I forgot to count

# 19? What, I could just pick two from this picture!!

I hope everyone is feeling much safer just knowing that these men are out there!

Jacqueline Paige

All things paranormal

Wednesday, March 17, 2010

Smooch Me, Baby!


What could be more fitting for romance than to talk about osculating? For those who aren’t sure what the word means, let me give it to you in layman’s terms:

~ Osculate ~

Encarta Dictionary: to kiss somebody

Your to touch closely

RhymeZone: to touch with the lips or press your lips against someone's mouth or other body part.

I don’t know about you, but I like RhymeZone’s definition.

Some little known facts about kissing:
*           A kiss triggers a cascade of neural messages and chemicals that transmit tactile sensations, sexual excitement, feelings of closeness, and even euphoria.

*           Kissing may have evolved from a primate mother’s practice of chewing food for her young before feeding them mouth-to-mouth.

*           Some scientists theorize that kissing is crucial to the evolutionary process of mate selection.

*           Lips may have evolved first for food and later applied themselves to speech. (Hmm, who would’ve thought?)

*           Scientists believe kissing can become addictive

*           Five cranial nerves that affect cerebral function are at work when you kiss, shuttling messages from our lips, tongue, cheeks and nose

*           Kissing unleashes a cocktail of chemicals that govern human stress, motivation, social bonding and sexual stimulation.

*           Kissing boosts pulse and blood pressure; pupils dilate, breathing deepens and rational thought retreats.

Did you ever think kissing could be powerful enough to do all that? More recent studies show that 59% of men and 66% of women admit there were times when they were attracted to someone until they kissed them. “Bad” kisses did not factor into the equation, but rather those participating in the study indicated they just didn’t “feel right” about the kiss. In fact, the relationships ended abruptly after the lip-lock. Boy, talk about the kiss of death.   

Kissing, it turns out, unleashes chemicals that ease stress hormones in both sexes and encourages bonding between people. Both men and women had a decline in cortisol (a chemical associated with stress) after 15 minutes of kissing.

Men tend to think of kissing as a prelude to copulation (you could have knocked me over with a feather) and also prefer “sloppy” kisses. In other words, they get off on exchanging saliva to transmit testosterone, thereby increasing the sex drive in both partners.  Sneaky little devils.

Overall, the science of kissing – philematology – is still vastly under researched, but scientists are making great strides in this regard. And all along we thought we were just making contact with our mouths.

Happy kissing!
Keta Diablo, Erotica Romance Author

You can find Keta here on the Net:

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

Erotica Networking: Not as Kinky as One Would Think

Most erotica/erotic romance writers do occasionally sit around a table, library, or chat room talking about favorite sexual positions. Although, this doesn't have to be every day and it's hardly the basis of most networking conversations. Sometimes it's not all about bullwhips and spankings. That could get someones attention by breaking the ice, but mostly networking starts with a general questions of "What do you write?" followed by "Who do you write for?" Then the fun stuff breaks into the conversation: word count, agented/non-agented, RWA membership, e-books vs. print.

What? What did you think I was going to say? Maybe this:

Or this.....

Or sometimes, on a really boring day, this:

Monday, March 15, 2010

Raven Bower: Horror and Fantasy Writer... An Interview

Today at Romance Writers Behaving Badly, we are interviewing Raven Bower. Raven writes horror and fantasy. She's absolutely gorgeous and talented (and a bit mysterious). Join us as we talk about her favorite things to write and the sexiest things she's done.

Name: Raven Bower

Genre: Supernatural suspense, horror, urban fantasy, fantasy

What’s the kinkiest, sexiest thing you’ve ever done:

Must I choose? Hm. I’d say wearing slinky gear (or nothing!) under sexy clothes while going out to eat. One time I went into a department store for a last minute wine purchase wearing a negligee and thigh highs under a trench coat LOL That was fun!

How bad do you get with your writing, are we talking just suggestion or down right bondage?

I’m a character writer so the answer depends on the characters involved and the particular story. Like all of us, some characters are private and others are more open with their sex lives. Some stories lend themselves well to the highly erotic scenes and others don’t. My Bailey series is more romance than sex as Bailey is a private person and would certainly object to displaying her bedroom time. My Storm Moon series (up and coming) is down and dirty and shows all. But then, the characters are that way too so it fits.

What’s the best thing you’ve ever written—the best line?

Every project I work on is my best yet.

If you could have any movie star take on a role as one of your heroes, who would it be?

Ooooh another that I must choose? Can I have two? Pretty please? The two actors I find most drool-worthy are Karl Urban (he looks sooo hot with long, unkempt hair) and Vin Diesel. I’d so love to have either or both as starring roles.

Size counts… on average how loooooonnnnnggg do you like your (um, how do we put it delicately) manuscripts to be ;> ( in words silly, not inches) and how steamy?

Lol Here I was thinking I’d have to go into the effect of girth too. For me manuscript length depends on the story. Some of mine wrap up well in 90k and others are heavier and surpass 100k. Again, the steamy part depends on the book. I aim for the most interesting story told in the very best way. If it calls for heavy steam…my study turns into a sauna! If it calls for more romance then roses and wine baby.

What are the hardest scenes to write for you?

The endings. Ah parting is such sweet sorrow…especially with a smoking lead male. Could you imagine walking away from Karl or Vin? I’d much rather chain them up and keep them around.

How close in real life have you gotten to one of your fantasies?

All the way!

What would you want other writers and your readers to know about you?

Good question. Whatever they’d like to ask I’ll answer, unless not answering is more fitting. You know, like answering with an evil laugh or flirty smile. Muahaha

And finally… anything you would like to share with us, an excerpt, a tidbit, or anything else about yourself?

My work does have dark elements and scary scenes – so it’s not for the fluffy bunnies. When I do decide to get hot it scorches so do mind your fingers whilst turning the pages please!

Other than that, hm. I’m a bit of a workaholic and obsessive. I love chocolate and wine – dry red wine specifically. Did I mention I’m a bit picky? LOL

Interested in learning more. Check Raven out at

Raven Bower enjoys writing in the horror and fantasy genres. Writing has been her passion since early childhood. She has a keen interest in the supernatural, the occult and world religions from Christianity to the obscure. Her insatiable interest in the metaphysical and culture drives her to express ideas in multiple forms of writing.

Raven is an avid role-player and loves to design mythical and diabolical creatures and cultures. She serves as co-author/designer and project manager of Team Farath, a new epic fantasy world and game system.

A trained herbalist, she loves gardening and concocting home remedies. Her love and passion for her family knows no boundary and often leads her to seek rich wisdom in health, spirit and finances. As a result, she lives a sturdy and vibrant domestic life which never ceases to inspire her family.

Raven graduated from Richmond High, in Richmond Michigan. She currently lives in northern Michigan with her husband, four children and hell hound.

Sunday, March 14, 2010

Sultry Sunday Floor Play

A nice quiet Sunday and just the two of you; the room is lit by firelight and candles. Fluffy pillows are tossed onto the floor. Spread a soft blanket or two next to the pillows. Hmm…sounds nice doesn’t it? Romantic lighting, sensual fabrics, you just need skin to skin contact and you’ll be all set for a deeply intimate encounter.

Pour a glass of wine and drop your clothes. It’s time for some Floor Play!
Lie down and get comfortable. Blindfold your honey and straddle him, letting your legs rest along side of his body. Begin by dripping warmed massage oil over his body, rubbing it in with long sensual strokes.

The key to sensual massage is to adore every inch of your partner’s body. Enchant his senses by varying the intensity of your touch and being creative. Use your fingertips, knuckles, and the heel of your hand, your elbows, and your forearms.

Tease him with an ostrich feather from head to toe, and then pleasure him orally for a few moments. Go back to massaging him. Slip a piece of ice into your mouth and let it melt. Delight his senses with your cold mouth on his hot body.

Rip off his blindfold (or not) and have your way with him.

Repeat this process only with you wearing the blindfold. Ask him to drip wine down your back then lick it off for an erotic effect.

Saturday, March 13, 2010

Sinful Saturday ~ The First One

Note: Please forgive this late post. There was a mixup.

Well, I’m not certain I can actually recall my first sexy ‘sinning’ time. Maybe it was about the age of fourteen when I naively got into a horse watering tank with a boy, my age, who was spending the summer with his grandparents. It was summer and dreadfully hot and I didn’t live in a neighborhood that had any built-in swimming pools. Actually, it was better, in that we all had about two acres, and a lot of us had horses or ponies.
The sin, his, since I had no clue what he was really about... think wet tank top. Yes, this was in the days before wet t-shirt contests. So, he got a real eyeful of my developing bosoms.
Okay, darn tame, but that was the era I grew up in.

By the first one, I actually meant my very first time to post on RWBB. As some of you may know, I have a passion for penning Flash Fiction. A lot of them are my ‘sinning’ fantasies revealed.
Since I write ‘fantasy/futuristic and paranormal’ erotic romance, this 300 word flash takes place in some galaxy living somewhere in the realms of my imagination. Or, maybe it’s real and I’m simply remote viewing... ?

Pet Slave

Utterly naked, I stand outside the cave-like tavern on the asteroid world of Cydez. I am bound like the other six women, who are also pet slaves. My wrists are comfortably behind my back, cuffed by wide soft leather. My nipples protrude, swollen buds captured by thin tight platinum rings. My breasts are also held captive by the fine shimmer of chain attached to the rings. The chain is taut, hooked to the railing above my head. It pulls my nipples into an ache that is sheer erotic pleasure. Wet with need, I await my master. He has business inside.

Women are not allowed inside this tavern. I feel Drok’s constant watch over me. For, I am positioned to his ready eye. There is little to do but swim in the bountiful raw sensations cascading over my flesh, to bask in the tiny motes of ecstasy that claim my mound and my nether lips. Still, I notice the races of the other women around me, as I can see them in my periphery vision. Most of them live inside the same carnal rapture. Drok strides toward me, his business finished. I don’t look upon the standing thickness of his cock.

It is his eyes that will tell me. They gleam magnificently through the oily light of dusk on this small outer-rim world. Shades of purple and azure blue cut through the dimness and I know. His large rough hands take possession of my flanks. He handles me in that way that makes me desperately want to surrender. At the same time, I want to defy him for what he arrogantly thinks belongs only to him. With his thumbs he spreads the flesh of my inner thighs enough for his ridged enormous cock to probe my folds. He strikes upwards powerfully.



Savanna Kougar

~ Run on the Wild Side of Romance ~

Author of ~

All Shades of Blue Paradise
Red Lioness Tamed
When a Good Angel Falls ~ In Print
Tangerine Carnal Dreams
Murder by Hair Spray in Gardenia, New Atlantis ~ In Print
Black Cat Beauty
Her Insatiable Dark Heroes ~ In Print
Stallion of Ash and Flame ~ In Print ~
Branded by the Texans ~ Coming in August 2010 from Siren-BookStrand


Friday, March 12, 2010

Flirty Friday: Victorian Fan Flirting

Today we're learning the art of flirting with a fan like all our favorite saucy Victorian heroines. In the Victorian era many men and women were loose with their morals outside of polite society, but inside a ballroom or polite function it wasn't proper for a woman to show indecent sexual interest in a man. Here we stumble across the art of the fan, a somewhat discreet language to tell a man your true feelings without lifting up your top ala Girls Gone Wild. The secret code messages for meetings or dalliances:
  • The lady appears briefly at the balcony, slowly fanning herself, and returns inside, shutting the balcony means: I can't go out
  • If she appears briefly at the balcony, excitedly fanning herself, and quickly goes inside, leaving the balcony open it means: I'll come out soon 
  Communicating with a fan on or near the body:
  • A fan placed near the heart: You have won my love
  •  A half open fan pressed against the lips: You may kiss me
  • Resting the fan on her lips: I don't trust you
  • Hiding her eyes behind an open fan: I love you
  • Fanning slowly: I'm married
  • Fanning fast: I'm engaged
  • Twirling the fan in her left hand: You are being watched
  • Running her fingers through the fan's ribs: I want to talk to you
  • Hitting her hands palm: Love me!
  • Looking closely at the painting on the fan: I like you
  • Dropping the fan: I belong to you        
And my personal favorite, probably the one I would use the most often:
  • Hitting any object: I'm impatiant
Who knew fan work was such a creative, lusty art? Maybe think of bringing a fan next time you and your lover hit a crowded dinner party and make some of your own sexy signals. Use them all night long to let your significant other know just how you feel while others are oblivious to your lust. Or it could even be added to a night of roleplaying! The opportunities are endless just keep your mind open and your fan handy!