Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Two sides of the same male coin

Men are a curious gender. The more I know them, the more I think they’re different breed from us women. But ya gotta love ‘em. I don’t understand them, but I find much to admire—and much that makes me want to yell with frustration.

What I admire about men:

  1. Their macho aggression – Men stand up for themselves. They don’t take bullshit. They don’t worry whether people will like them if they speak their minds. They throw themselves into competition with their whole hearts, whether it’s a “friendly” ball game or their careers. They’re willing to fight for what they want. It’s such a contrast to most of the women I know who seem overly passive.

  2. Their decisive decision-making – Men don’t waffle. They set a course of action, follow through and move on. They don’t create exhaustive lists of pros and cons and try to achieve the impossible by trying to make everybody happy. Nor do they beat themselves up after the fact whether they made right decision.

  3. Their willingness to take risks – Men make bold, daring moves. They aren’t hindered by a fear of failure or danger and as a result, they achieve proportionately bold results.

  4. Their unabashed attitude toward sex – Men are unapologetic about their enjoyment of sex. They enjoy sex for sex’s sake. They tell their partners what they need and want and don’t seem to worry what their partners will think of them if they make risqué requests.

What I find frustrating about men:

  1. Their macho aggression – Men are aggressive to their own (and society’s) detriment. They perceive challenges and battles where there are none. They tilt at windmills and fight to conquer invisible mountains. Often their aggression fuels a conflict long after it would have subsided had they left it alone or tried persuasion instead.

  2. Their snap decision-making – Not every issue is black and white and to force an issue into a mold sometimes doesn’t result in the optimal outcome. There’s a lot of gray in the world, and some decisions warrant careful consideration of all sides and opinions and yes, even hand-wringing. Some decisions should be hard to make because are they hard.

  3. Their stupidity in taking risks – Men sometimes act as if they’re invincible and do stupid things that endanger their lives and well-being.

  4. Their casual attitude toward sex – Sure, sometimes a person has an itch that needs to be scratched, but sex is more than that. However, for some men it’s rarely more than that They place little meaning on sex, yet perversely go to great lengths to pursue that which is meaningless.

And men say women don’t make sense.


William Kendall said...

On behalf of all men, I have to ask one question of my side of the species:

All right, which one of you blabbed?

Cara Bristol said...

LOL. I'm not telling!

Savanna Kougar said...

Cara, excellent post! Yep, that's been my experience over the years. I do admire men in certain ways, and love them as a whole. In other ways, I just shake my head, and look for an escape route.

Vivien Jackson said...

Yep, and yep.