So what do I do?
What any good author does... RESEARCH. Here's where hubby has that Cheshire Cat grin. No, really... I've been pouring over books (fiction & non-fiction), interviewing various Doms and subs and letting my imagination go.
According to Wikipedia: BDSM is a consensual lifestyle choice, or type of adult role-play between two or more individuals. The compound acronym, BDSM, is derived from the terms bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism and masochism (S&M). BDSM includes a wide spectrum of activities, forms of interpersonal relationships, and distinct subcultures.
I found the best help on the subject (other than personal interviews) was the online site Seekers. This site states,
"D/s is a lifestyle choice, Domination and submission, where people live their lives opting by nature to be either Dominant or submissive. In a relationship the one complements the other and is based on the gift of submission, and absolute trust."
I must say this sight was not only helpful with my work, but I thought the owners handled the subject in a fundamental and considerate manner. As a "vanilla" person, I felt very comfortable thumbing through the pages of information.
Writing this book has become a whole new experience for me and has opened a door I always thought was best kept closed. Not only am I becoming a better writer because of my research but I've also developed a sincere respect for my friends who delve into this world.
Thank you to all who have opened their world to me.
Never be afraid to ask questions,
the answers may amaze you.
Mary Quast is the author of the Soul Series.
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To really learn about S&M or BDSM, you should read MASTER, The Unauthorized Autobiography of Master R, available at Master's website: http://www.ladomaine.com/
Master R and Mistress Collette run a world renown training chateau for Doms, subs and slaves. His book describes in detail the joys and challenges as well as the history of this lifestyle and is at this link on the site: http://www.ladomaine.com/writings.htm
Donna
I'll check it out. Thanks. :)
From "Sweet" romance to BDSM? LOL. Characters do have a mind of their own! I like to say, "I'm not kinky, my characters are!"
Mary, characters will do that to you. Research is often key. In that particular area of sexuality, I just go with my own imaginings and sense of what is truly happening between my heroines and heroes.
That first piece of art is very pretty. Is he plugged into something, or is something spiral plugged into him, do you think?
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